Trust founds every relationship. It is the basis for healthy conflict that does not degrade, but sharpens the other. Trust breaks us free of our fear of commitment and openly demands accountability. Both parties are accountable because both focus on results — the goal and purpose of the relationship: trust.
Trust begins with understanding who the other person is. He is not an obstacle, nor a chain, but each person is an encounter to grow in God’s likeness.
Some people are blessings,
others are to teach us a lesson.
Trust reveals authenticity. Instead of living in shame, healthy relationship understands the other’s short-comings; but more importantly, demands from the other growth based on authentic affirmation. Trust then joins not because of pressure, but the bond between the two inspires the other to “betterness”.
Ultimately, trust is rooted in courage. Courage believes one another and courage risks self for the good of the other. Trust then anchors the friendship.
Trust is an act of faith in the other for both are God centered — not human focused. To trust others including ourselves, we first have to trust the Lord:
Trust in the “LORD” with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes;
Fear the ”LORD”, and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones” (Prov 3:5 – 8).
Self-trust is a paradox. We cannot trust ourselves for we know we fail. We know we are sinners, so how do we trust ourselves? We trust in the Lord, casting all our cares and fears upon Him knowing He heals and strengthens as He wounds.
Trust does not fear either, for we clothe ourselves in a mantle of meekness and humility. Both empower our trust, for our strength comes from the Lord Himself — not from ourselves.
In contrast, self-trust is distrust!
Many pridefully trust in themselves; and so,
distrust invades their friendships and faith.
Instead of trusting in ourselves, we bind ourselves to Jesus first. In relationship with Jesus, He directs our choices to trust in the Lord despite all our troubles. We cast all our fears upon the Lord, for we know He will strengthen us in all stages of our lives for He cares about us with his very life.